Relationship Viability Index

A reflective tool for assessing core compatibility traits, tailored toward individuals with high sensitivity (INFJ-Oriented).

Use the sliders to rate your partner on each statement. The score automatically updates.

Scale A – Narcissistic Traits (Red Flag Indicators)

A1. Expects special treatment and gets upset when they don't get it.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

A2. Has one set of rules for me and a different set for themselves.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

A3. Guilt-trips or punishes instead of talking when hurt.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

A4. Often sees themselves as the victim, even when they caused the problem.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

B1. Can eventually calm down and talk things through.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

B2. Rarely explodes or storms off over small things.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

B3. Can feel jealous or insecure without attacking or threatening me.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

B4. Can apologize without making it mainly about their own pain.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

C1. Can admit when they were wrong without blaming me.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

C2. Follows through on commitments more often than not.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

C3. Shows real effort to change hurtful behavior, not just say sorry.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

C4. Does not rewrite history to make themselves look better.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

D1. Seems terrified of losing control of me or the relationship.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

D2. Swings between wanting closeness and pushing me away.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

D3. Reacts very strongly to feeling ignored or rejected.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

D4. Tests my loyalty instead of trusting it.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

E1. We can disagree without threats or drama.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

E2. Stays in the conversation instead of storming off or stonewalling.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

E3. Does not threaten resources (money, car, housing) to win fights.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

E4. Focuses on solving the problem, not just winning.

1 (Disagree) 3 5 (Agree)

Adjust the sliders above and click "Calculate Viability" to see your results.